Striving to Be Perfectly Unperfect

How often do you find yourself holding back, waiting to be perfect before you show up?

For a long time, I let the pressure to be perfect hold me back.

I’ve had deep fears about being judged—not for my work, not for my gifts, but for how I look. Specifically, my teeth. I know they’re not perfect. They need work. And I’ve been painfully aware of it.

For years, I felt shame about them. A deep desire to hide, to avoid being seen fully because I thought my imperfectionwould make me unworthy of attention. I convinced myself that I couldn’t share my message of healing because I didn’t look the way I thought I “should.” It felt like a constant weight, one that told me I wasn’t enough until everything was fixed.

I told myself that if I didn’t look the right way, I shouldn’t put myself out there. That I wasn’t ready yet. That I should wait until I “fixed” this one thing before allowing myself to be seen.

And let’s be real—being a small business owner doesn’t come with dental insurance. Healing my teeth will take time, resources, and grace. But I was letting something that might take years be the reason I held back from sharing my love for healing, my voice, my purpose.

I’m not sharing this for sympathy or for anyone to try and solve it for me. I’m sharing it because I know I’m not the only one who has let perfectionism get in the way of simply showing up.

But here’s what I’ve learned: Perfectionism is about control.

We think that if we just present ourselves the “right” way, we can control how people see us, how they react to us, how they accept us. But that kind of power is an illusion. Real power isn’t about controlling others—it’s about owning our own energy.

✨ True power isn’t about having power over people.
✨ It’s about having power over yourself—your energy, your choices, your ability to be seen exactly as you are.

Now, let me break some news to you. Even healers are not walking around as glowing, all-knowing, perfectly enlightened beings. We cry. We procrastinate. We deep-clean the entire house instead of sitting with our feelings. We will organize a sock drawer before clearing the pressure of perfectionism.

So, let’s be real:
✨ Not even healers are perfect.
✨ Perfection is not a prerequisite for purpose.
✨ The world doesn’t need a flawless version of you—it needs the real you.

When you release perfectionism, you don’t lose control—you actually gain freedom. You step into a flow where life meets you where you are, and the right people, opportunities, and experiences align.

But here’s the thing: Releasing perfectionism doesn’t mean everyone will stop judging you. People may still judge. And that’s okay. Let that be the sign you need to know they’re not really your people right now. They might be stuck in the energy of perfection, and that’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to meet them there. You don’t have to punish them for being there either. As Mel Robbins says, "Let them!"

That’s why I strive to be perfectly unperfect. To embrace the messy, the raw, the uncomfortable. Because that uncomfortable space? That’s where real growth happens.

It’s okay to feel uncomfortable.
It’s okay to be seen before you have it all figured out.
It’s okay to let yourself be witnessed in your messiness.

Because when you surrender perfectionism, you don’t just free yourself—you connect to a deeper, more honest part of who you are. And that’s where true power lives.

So, I’ll ask you again: What are you waiting to perfect before you allow yourself to be seen? And what might happen if you stopped waiting?